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1.      Introduction


It is likely
that anyone might become target of domestic violence. In Vietnam, it has been
one of the biggest problem that 58% of women possibly deal with recently (Thanh
Nien News, 2015, cited in “Domestic violence in Vietnam”, 2016).
“Domestic violence can impact anyone regardless of their gender, race, age,
culture or religion” (Kanchiputu
& Mwale, 2006 ). It has a variety of forms, comprising emotional abuse, physical attack and sexual violence. There
are factors which make up internal aggression, but the root cause is lack of
background knowledge about it. The problem is worse due to outdated views which mean in order to maintain happiness in family, women should be tolerant when the
spouses treat them badly, and they continue to suffer from their husband. Meanwhile,
being bread-makers, some men seem to treat their partner unfair anytime for
unreasonable causes. Moreover, kids who have forgettable childhood aimlessly
become victims of domestic violence in their family. While “keeping silent is
dying” (Young & Davis, 2013), it is likely that fighting against internal abuse is a long-term strategy. It is high
time for victims to have more chances
to raise their voice and be paid more attention from different groups, both
neighborhood and local community. Thus, this research will provide updated
facts, discuss the effects of domestic aggression and suggest efficient
techniques to protect victims from this issue.

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2. Discussion of findings         

2.1. Evidences of domestic violence in

“For many years
almost every Vietnamese woman took it for granted that unconditional service to
men is the natural function, a required sacrifice, and an expression of
self-denial, necessary in the role of women in the family” (Le, n.d.).
Representing womanhood in different discussion forums, a numerous women admit
that they are suffering at the hands of their husbands due to unreasonable
understanding of partners in their daily lives. “Domestic violence is a problem
but it is basically a silent problem” (Young & Davis, 2013). In lieu of raising their voice for
assistance, victims silently stand during a long period. According to Dr Nguyen
(cited in Lambie, 2016),
“some women think that it is karma and they are suffering for something they
did in their past life”. Traditionally, women have poor background and they are
likely accepted that it is their destiny whether they are beaten by their
spouses. Another bigger issue in Vietnam society seems to be the fear of losing
dignity. Many women feeling ashamed about what had happen to them intend to
hide it from anyone. After marriage, their happy times end quickly because of
stress and hardship from giving their life to the service of their family,
including their husband and children in any circumstances. It seems that women
beaten up daily for many intolerable years make every effort to endure life as
a human punch-bag. To protect victims from fierce actions, “the Law on Gender
Equality and the Law on Domestic Violence Prevention” was enacted by the
government (Asialife, cited in Lambie, 2016). However, this problem may be
difficult to address, for most women do not know their rights. In addition,
stereo type of Vietnamese women is to stand sacrifices and hardships. As stated
by National Study on Domestic Violence Against Women in Vietnam (cited in Lambie, 2016), one third of 5,000
women aged from 18 to 60 year-olds accept that they have suffered physical and
sexual violence in lieu of accusing their husbands of their violent behaviors
in order to avoid family separation and their children.


2.2. Effects of domestic violence

2.2.1. Women as the main victims of
domestic abuse

Women who are
most at risk for domestic violence have coped with physical abuse caused by
their husbands. It is clearly seen that the common feature of any situations
between two genders is an imbalance of control and power. Male represent
bread-maker with polite behaviors in their homes; however, they constantly use
vicious actions which bring about wounds to family members if victims tend to
run into stiff resistance. According to Meyer (2017), “at least 42% women sustain minor injuries such as
scratches, bruises and swelling. More severe injury may occur if the abuse is
frequent and harsh”. After brutal assaults, sufferers often absent their
work place due to bodily damages or even they are afraid to return their
maternal home because they fell disappointed of their husband’s manners. Besides,
attitude denying essential needs of victims is physical violence. Men have a
tendency to beat and ignore their wives when women desire to be helped. If
their daughters were the victim, those men would keep silent and behave as the
same way before. In several cases, women also suffer from sexual violence. It is a forced sexual
encounter of any type and it includes intercourse, inappropriate touching of
any kind and even forced kissing (Sorgen, n.d.). Women who
are main targets of internal violence accidently become winebibbers or drug
addicts as drugs possibly help them to forget their pains. Women endure not
only harms on their bodies but also they seem to deal with negative thinking
while mistreatment process. Emotional abuse including impolite statements or
conflict actions is likely behavior that threat, intimidation, or the victim’s
freedom limitation. Abusers have a tendency to make efforts to keep victims
from contacting with their friends and families. They consider that the victim
could not leave the relationship with them because victims impossibly rely on
anyone except for them. Isolation contributes the victim’s internal strength
damaging and self-defense ability loosing. In many cases, those women get
several troubles which relates to their emotion in lives. Unexpectedly, those
women also become abusers as they tend to maltreat to their kids when they are
drunk. It is worth that they should receive condemnation even though they
unintentionally make wounds of their children. Compared to women who have never
been abused, those who have experienced partner violence are almost two times
more likely to report poor health and physical problems, and three times more
likely to have ever thought of suicide (cited in GENERAL STATISTICS OFFICE of VIET NAM, 2010).


2.2.2. Children as an indirect target of
internal abuse

Different from
Vietnamese women, children are accidently become consequences of domestic abuse
in their families. “41.2% respondents said that domestic violence affects to
the abused child to lose interest in education” (Kanchiputu & Mwale, 2016). Sometimes, it takes victimized
children redundant of time to do household work, even they absent from school
due to verbal aggression and
physical injury. Those youngsters could not concentrate on their studies and
often have flashbacks about the abuse (Kee, n.d.)
which resulted from different misunderstanding of their parents. Children’s
behaviors are also influenced negatively by internal violence at school. It is
quite certain that they use aggression as a way which they could get what they
want. The reason why boys tend to become more aggressive than girls is that female
students consider it normality at school. In the majority of cases, children
witnessing domestic abuse seem to have less chance to enjoy their wonderful
childhood than others. They often grow up independently instead of being taken
care by their parents. It is probable that victimized kids hide their feeling
at home and behave as uneducated people in society. Domestic violence likely
causes negative emotion of the victim who may find it difficult to trust their
partners in the future marriage. They are often more aggressive in any
circumstances and they treat unfairly to their members of family such as verbal
abuse and non-verbal abuse. In many cases, children affected by the violence
might have a terrible long-term impact on their lives (Kee, n.d.).

3. Conclusion

Currently, updated facts
have pointed out that domestic violence seems to develop more and more
seriously in Vietnam. This epidemic is apparently popular problem in most
families due to misunderstanding of several aspects between couples in their
lives. Women who suffer both physical and psychological injuries likely become
major victims of this matter. Although children only witness violence from
their homes and their neighbors, their studies also are badly influenced.
Furthermore, personality development of children  tends to change negatively because their
parents generate imagines of broken family in their awareness and the fathers
accidently teach them who are kids that using violence is the best way to
tackle with problems. It is hoped that the government will issue stricter law
and punishment to those who commit domestic abuse. Moreover,
family members and community should join hands to get rid of domestic violence
in the near future.