Hello! It’s Mei here bringing you my ideal type in a man. Everyone has an ideal type. Whether it’s for a friend, or a significant other. Everyone’s opinion varies. A few people would have common ideal traits and some people don’t. Everyone has their own type, has their own likes and dislikes. It would be horrendous if everyone in the world liked all the same things. Everything would be dull, simple, the same, nothing but the ordinary.I had people ask me what’s my ideal type before and I thought why not tackle it today in this blog. So.. Let’s begin!My BoyfriendMy Ideal* Boyfriend—Kindness — Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. Kindness is a willingness to full-heartedly celebrate someone else’s successes. Kindness is also about telling the truth in a gentle way when doing so is helpful to the other person. Receiving accurate feedback in a loving and caring way is an important part of a trusted relationship. The courage to give and receive truthful feedback is a key component of growth and flexible thinking. — Kindness is what I look for in a person, because kindness has multiple other traits that go under that word. And those traits are what I deem to be important in a relationship. Can you imagine a relationship wherein you both always bicker due to the fact that the two of you are rude and disrespectful to each other? In relationships I strive to be kind to them to show my way of affection to them, being rude would definitely not get me anywhere with them.Listener — Listening, someone who listens to you attentively is someone who cares for you. Listening is key to a successful relationship as listening to each other would be basis on how you would both get to know each other more, learn their problems, and etc. In my case, I like to talk a lot but not to the point that it’s excessive. I usually talk happily when I’m excited or in a good mood. And it’s the opposite when I’m upset. I tend to rant about my problem to the people who cares because keeping it all bottled up to myself kills me and hurts me. I find expressing it in different ways relaxing and calming. I would appreciate a man who won’t find my talking annoying, or a disturbance.Sense of Humor — It’s been said that we can’t truly love someone if they don’t laugh with us, or make us laugh. It makes sense — there are endless laughter benefits. People who laugh together have a stronger bond, and are able to overcome the stresses and conflicts in their relationship. Shared laughter with your significant other can improve your relationship in the most enjoyable way possible. And there is a saying that laughter is the best medicine. Why? Laughter decreases stress and makes you feel great and happy. It would be nice to have someone who makes me laugh, who I can joke with, who would laugh at my jokes afterall humor is a great way to eliminate any awkwardness or embarrassment.Attention — This is a topic that I want plenty of. Ever since we were children, we are taught and brainwashed into believing that wanting attention is a negative. The phase, “wanting attention,” itself appears to possess a negative connotation. As soon as a small child exhibits poor behavior, adults immediately jump to the conclusion that he or she is just looking for attention. The result? We grow up thinking that we shouldn’t want attention; that it is simply abnormal and wrong to crave attention. Because of this, we grow up believing that we shouldn’t ask or actively seek out the attention and validation that we so rightfully deserve. Craving another human’s attention is not a flaw in character — it’s human. Everybody wants to feel loved, cared about and appreciated on this earth, but that doesn’t diminish their value as individuals. Attention given to me is something I cherish and love because it means that they gave their time to me. To spend their time with me. They think that I am worth the hours of talking, chatting, laughing, and etc.Playfully mean — Being playfully mean includes teasing in a manner where it would really be treated as a joke and not an offense. Being teased causes laughter and more fun into the relationship. There are times when I turn a full on mean bitch to you as a joke and I would love a guy who can keep up with that and put up a good fight.Mature — Maturity. In psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. Someone who knows when to be serious in a given situation and knows how to sort himself to when he should be witty and funny is very important. If you lack in maturity, you wouldn’t be treated seriously. Someone who acts like a cute child makes me comfortable and free with him. And having someone who’s serious at proper moments is a sign to show me that I can rely on you no matter what situation is given. There are certain topics that shouldn’t be treated as a joke and that’s when maturity comes in.Same interests — I believe shared values are far more important to a relationship than shared interests. It’s far more important to me that my significant other is a kind and decent man. Although having the same interests would be nice. It would give us more things to talk about and we would be able to relate to each other.Talkative — If he talks a lot, the same way as I do, that would be amazing. Having a man who’s shy and quiet isn’t my strong suit, having someone who can talk alongside you will possibly keep you both busy and accompanied.Naughty — Regardless of my personality which most people say is nice and sweet, I have a dirty mind. By that I mean, I talk freely about sexual topics and I find it enjoyable when a person can relate and add to those kinds of topics. I want a guy who can handle my lewd thoughts and not get all innocent on me. I have my kinks that I am loving, I want a person who can deal with that and give what I need and want.Appearance — I’m not going to lie and say that “Oh no, it’s what’s inside that counts”. That’s really bullshit. Physical appearance does affect your overall personality. Those who are fortunate to be born beautiful or handsome have an edge over others in their public dealings. The fact is, no matter how shallow it sounds, physical attraction is important in a relationship. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t date someone unless they’re a male model… All it means is that you have to be a little attracted to the person in order for there to be sexual chemistry.Jealousy and Protectiveness — I love a “Where you think you going to wear that?” “Who the fuck you texting?” “You better bring your ass back over here.” Almost every girl wants a protective boyfriend, to have their man to do everything in their power to protect their girl from any and or everything.