Our world as we perceive it has become full of three types of people the Victims the Spectators and the Inflictors. But in reality our world is full of only two types of people the Inflictors and the Victims. Eldridge Cleaver explained this in quiet a few words he said ”You can either be a part of the problem or a part of the solution we get to choose” what he meant to say was that spectators are as guilty as the inflictors, because it is due to their silence that the inflictors get the confidence to continue or take their game up a notch.
People have very different opinions on how should they help to support a problem. For instance there are numerous rallies against ‘Public Sexual Harassment’ which has been given a fancy term called as Eve teasing. But when it comes to taking up a stand in real life there is pin drop silence.
A recent blog put up by a twenty two year old girl gained a lot of popularity but she responded with only one comment stating ‘ I can have all the support here on social media but when I faced that man on the road who had the audacity to pose for the picture I was going to use against him there was no one with me. Rather people looked at me as if I was doing something wrong’ I wish to bring to our notice these two instances where a girl is sexually harassed and nobody including her speaks up. Nobody realises the fact that the eve easer gains a lot of confidence when he sees people he barely knows becoming his submissive. Now the reaction of the people around would be ‘ poor girl’ or ‘ she’s such a decent girl who doesn’t meddle in such situations’ people would pity the girl instead of their blood boiling up in rage to such out rages actions.
INSIDE THE GIRLS HEAD- let me get away with this/ I shouldn’t be meddling with such a crowd/ am I wearing something inappropriateBY STANDARDS- such an ill manned boy/ as expected/ such an easy prey.THE INFLICTORS HEAD- such an easy prey/ no one dares stand up against me.The other instance where the girl is sexually harassed and she comes back and gives two tight slaps to eve teaser. Here the people and the eve teaser would presume that the girl or women acted out for unnecessary violence. What we fail to notice is that the eve teaser has been publicly embarrassed and will not dare to do the same so lightly.INSIDE THE GIRLS HEAD- I will no take this/ who does he think he is.
INSIDE THE BYSTANDERS HEAD- she’s trying to get ahead herself/ has she no manners.INSIDE THE SEXUAL ASSAULTERS HEAD- what just happened here/ how dare she.According to Indian scenario 4 out of 5 women are sexually harassed in public places.
The situation here in India has gone far from worse because women have always been quiet and now when a few women are coming up voicing their concerns they are being shunned by their own female population who still have the same backwater thinking where women are inferior to men. Both men and women must question their moral and everything they claim they have stood up for when they face such a situation, should they support the people who stand up or should they be the bystanders equally guilty as the ones committing the crime. So in the end we have to take a stand through my words I have hoped to explain how easy it is to close your eyes and be a bystander but does that help ?First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—Because I was not a Socialist.Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak outBecause I was not a Trade Unionist.Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak outBecause I was not a Jew.Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.” is this all we can hope for ?